Ellen Mary Dykas

Ellen is the Director of Equipping for Ministry to Women for Harvest USA. She joined Harvest USA in 2007 as our first full-time women’s ministry staff. She’s authored several Harvest USA mini-books, a women’s curriculum, a devotional, and, most recently, Jesus and Your Unwanted Journey: Wives Finding Comfort After Sexual Betrayal. Ellen will now focus on producing new content and developing training for churches. She’s excited to build on her 16 years here through teaching, writing, and training. Ellen received her MA from Covenant Theological Seminary and a graduate certificate in biblical counseling from Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF).

Ellen Mary Dykas

Ellen is the Director of Equipping for Ministry to Women for Harvest USA. She joined Harvest USA in 2007 as our first full-time women’s ministry staff. She’s authored several Harvest USA mini-books, a women’s curriculum, a devotional, and, most recently, Jesus and Your Unwanted Journey: Wives Finding Comfort After Sexual Betrayal. Ellen will now focus on producing new content and developing training for churches. She’s excited to build on her 16 years here through teaching, writing, and training. Ellen received her MA from Covenant Theological Seminary and a graduate certificate in biblical counseling from Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF).

Why Couples Who Are Considering Marriage Need to Share Their Sexual History

Why Couples Who Are Considering Marriage Need to Share Their Sexual History

In this video, Ellen Dykas explains how to begin talking about your sexual history and why it’s critical to discuss past and current sexual struggles before engagement and marriage. If you’d like to learn more, consider reading Ellen’s minibook, Your Dating Relationship and Your Sexual Past: How Much to Share. When you buy this minibook…

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

In the Church, men and women are brothers and sisters in Christ. This means we can relate to one another as friends by sharing life together and helping one another run the race of faith. To learn more about biblical friendship, read Aimee Byrd’s blog, “Does a Woman’s Sexuality Hinder her Capability for Friendship?” You…

What If I’m a Woman Who Struggles with Pornography?

What If I’m a Woman Who Struggles with Pornography?

In this video, Ellen talks about Jessica Harris’ blog, “My Problem Wasn’t Amish Romance Novels.” Many people think women do not have intense struggles with hard-core porn, but Jessica writes about her struggle and what women need to battle—and win—over addictive pornography struggles. You can read Jessica’s blog here.  And you can read the entire Spring 2018 issue of harvestusa…

Articles by Ellen

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January 25th, 2024

Jesus and Queerness: The Cross and the Q of LGBTQ+

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January 11th, 2024

A Prayer for a Fresh Start with Sexual Faithfulness

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December 14th, 2023

Preferred Pronouns: Responding with Faithfulness and Humility

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November 30th, 2023

The Pain of Repentance Can Lead You to Jesus

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November 16th, 2023

Are You Savoring or Suppressing God’s Truth?

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November 9th, 2023

A Wife’s Journey Forward When Restoration Is Slow or Unsure

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August 17th, 2023

What Place Does Jesus Have In Your Marriage?

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July 27th, 2023

Achan, David, and Me: Ungodly Curiosity’s Dangerous Pathway

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April 27th, 2023

Help God! I’m Addicted to a Person and Can’t Stop

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March 16th, 2023

The Exciting Future of Harvest USA’s Ministry to Women

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February 2nd, 2023

“Sexual Sanity for Women” Is Ten Years Old!

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September 22nd, 2022

When People Displace Jesus

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September 8th, 2022

Jesus, Your Steadfast Companion When Change Hurts

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August 25th, 2022

My Husband Sinned Against Me—Why Do I Carry the Shame?

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August 4th, 2022

No Private Real Estate: Our Desires and Attractions Belong to Jesus

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June 16th, 2022

Drawing Out Each Other’s Deep Waters

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April 28th, 2022

Hurting Wives: Jesus Is with You

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April 14th, 2022

Both Spouses Need Care After Sexual Infidelity

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November 11th, 2021

Meet the Staff: Ellen Mary Dykas

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August 5th, 2021

Same-Sex Attraction and Jesus: One Woman’s Journey

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July 1st, 2021

God, People, and Sex in their Right Places

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April 15th, 2021

Where Do You Turn When Suffering Comes?

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April 8th, 2021

TGCW21 Breakout Session Notes

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March 4th, 2021

How Are You Equipping Your Staff to Minister to People of Color?

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January 7th, 2021

A Prayer for a Fresh Start in Battling Sin

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November 23rd, 2020

Codependent No More: Encouragement for Keeping Christ Central in Our Relationships

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September 24th, 2020

Post-traumatic Growth and the Gospel

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July 16th, 2020

Desires: A GPS for the Human Heart

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July 2nd, 2020

Distracted and Dependent: Personal Integrity When Chaos Surrounds You

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April 23rd, 2020

Wisdom from Women and Men Engaged in the Daily Battle

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April 16th, 2020

Jesus: The Good News Our Hearts Need

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March 19th, 2020

Jesus Is with You

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January 9th, 2020

Your Dating Relationship and Your Sexual Past

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October 31st, 2019

Learning to Say Yes and No

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July 18th, 2019

A Sexually Faithful Church Protects the Vulnerable 

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March 7th, 2019

The Danger Lurking in Disappointing Relationships

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December 20th, 2018

Living as Spiritual Family

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October 18th, 2018

Wives and Porn and Busy Church Leaders

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October 4th, 2018

Codependent Struggles in Women’s Friendships

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August 23rd, 2018

Sexual History: Why You Need to Address it Before Getting Engaged

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April 26th, 2018

Women & Sexuality: The Church’s Blind Spot

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March 14th, 2018

Wives and Porn: What to Say or Do That Really Helps

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March 8th, 2018

Wives and Porn: What Not to Say After She Knows

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December 14th, 2017

Confession: Better Than Allegations

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August 22nd, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When closeness becomes destructive – Part 3

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August 16th, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When Closeness Becomes Destructive – Part 2

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August 10th, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When Closeness Becomes Destructive – Part I

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July 17th, 2017

A Couple’s Journey to Intimacy after Sexual Betrayal

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July 11th, 2017

Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal

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June 1st, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 4

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May 25th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 3

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May 17th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 2

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May 10th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 1

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March 8th, 2017

Being Single and Tempted: How can I avoid sexual sin?

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February 10th, 2017

Being Single and Tempted: Where is God in this?

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July 7th, 2016

Addressing Sexual Struggles in Asia

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April 7th, 2016

When Women’s Friendships Turn Sexual—Part 2

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March 30th, 2016

When Women’s Friendships Turn Sexual—Part 1

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January 6th, 2016

Wives: If you suspect your husband is looking at porn

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June 17th, 2015

One Training—Two Lives Changed—A Church Impacted

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December 3rd, 2014

Pick Up Your Mat and Go Home: Hope for women—Part 2

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November 26th, 2014

Pick Up Your Mat and Go Home: Hope for women—Part 1

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January 15th, 2014

Sexual Sanity for Women: Excerpts from introduction and session one

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January 15th, 2014

Sexuality and the Single Christian: Godly answers in a confusing world

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January 15th, 2014

How Can My Church Minister to Singles?

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December 20th, 2012

Same-Sex Attraction and Change: Testimonies—Part 4

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December 18th, 2012

Same-Sex Attraction and Change: Testimonies—Part 3

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December 13th, 2012

Same-Sex Attraction and Change: Testimonies—Part 2

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December 11th, 2012

Same-Sex Attraction and Change: Testimonies—Part 1

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October 16th, 2012

Discontentment Can Lead to Sexual Sin

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October 12th, 2012

Let Your Passions Be Single

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October 10th, 2012

Turning from Sin to a Life Well-Lived

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August 2nd, 2012

The Giver of Grace for Sexual Sin

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July 31st, 2012

Our Bodies Are Temples

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July 23rd, 2012

The Snare of Compare: Why do I have this struggle?

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July 19th, 2012

Speaking Up About Women’s Sexuality

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December 17th, 2010

Starving Our Temptations—Part 4

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December 10th, 2010

Starving Our Temptations—Part 3

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December 7th, 2010

Starving Our Temptations—Part 2

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December 1st, 2010

Starving Our Temptations—Part 1

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March 1st, 2010

Despair on Monday Morning: Where’s hope?

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February 24th, 2010

Awakenings, Arousings, and Attachments—Part 3

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February 10th, 2010

Awakenings, Arousings, and Attachments—Part 2

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January 11th, 2010

Awakenings, Arousings, and Attachments—Part 1

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December 27th, 2009

The God Who Is Always Near, 24/7

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December 18th, 2009

The Richest of Fare—A Table Set for Us

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December 14th, 2009

Good, Sweet, and Light Triumphs Over Evil, Bitter, and Dark

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November 4th, 2009

Taste and See That the Lord Is Good

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October 28th, 2009

People and Food Addictions Are So Similar!

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October 22nd, 2009

Will You Let Jesus Enthrall You…Rather Than Another Woman?

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January 2nd, 2009

Thoughts for You…a Woman Enslaved to Pornography – Part 2

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December 18th, 2008

Thoughts for You…a Woman Enslaved to Pornography – Part 1

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December 13th, 2008

Daring to Disagree with C.S. Lewis: The safety of God

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April 29th, 2021

I Didn’t Sign Up For This: Expectations and Temptations

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November 23rd, 2020

Once Codependent, Always Codependent?

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September 24th, 2020

Why a Christ-Centered Lens Is Important

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July 17th, 2020

Desires: Stuff, Deny, Embrace… or Something Else?

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April 23rd, 2020

Our Ever-Present Help in Sexual Temptation

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February 13th, 2020

Transformed Hates and Loves

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December 19th, 2019

A Year-End Message from Mark Sanders and Ellen Dykas

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November 7th, 2019

God’s Pruning Is Always Purposeful

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October 31st, 2019

The Importance of Saying Yes to Jesus

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March 7th, 2019

How Should I Handle Disappointments in My Relationships?

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December 20th, 2018

How Does Jesus Call Us to Live as a Spiritual Family?

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October 18th, 2018

How Can Church Leaders Help Hurting Wives?

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October 4th, 2018

When Do Friendships Between Women Become Codependent?

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August 23rd, 2018

Why Couples Who Are Considering Marriage Need to Share Their Sexual History

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May 17th, 2018

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

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May 2nd, 2018

What If I’m a Woman Who Struggles with Pornography?

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April 26th, 2018

Women and Sexuality: What Are the Church’s Blind Spots?

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March 14th, 2018

What Should I Say to a Hurting Wife?

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March 8th, 2018

What Should I NOT Say to a Hurting Wife?

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December 14th, 2017

Why is it best for you to confess your own sin?

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August 21st, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When closeness becomes destructive – Part 3

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August 16th, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When Closeness Becomes Destructive – Part 2

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August 10th, 2017

Emotional Affairs: When closeness becomes destructive – Part I

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July 17th, 2017

A Couple’s Journey to Intimacy after Sexual Betrayal

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July 11th, 2017

Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal

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June 1st, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 4

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May 25th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 3

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May 17th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 2

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May 10th, 2017

Women: Running the race well—Part 1

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March 8th, 2017

Being Single and Tempted: How can I avoid sexual sin?

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February 22nd, 2017

Being Single and Tempted: Where is God in this?

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