You’re in a serious, committed dating relationship, and you’re thinking about marriage. Or perhaps you’re already engaged and eagerly counting down the weeks until your wedding. But there’s a weight in the back of your mind. You haven’t shared your sexual past.

Maybe you’re even hiding a current sexual addiction. But you’re also not sure if your boyfriend or girlfriend needs to know details of your sexual past or present. Won’t talking about it bring more harm than good? You wonder whether you need to share anything and, if yes, what you should share.

Ellen Mary Dykas explains that in order to start marriage on a healthy and solid footing, couples need to build a foundation of trust, vulnerability, and openness so they can make wise decisions about a lifetime of commitment.

Weaving in the beauty and freedom of the grace of Jesus, Ellen gives principles that will guide readers in how to walk in honesty and transparency with each other. She also encourages couples to rest in the forgiveness of the Lord. 


Ellen Mary Dykas (MA) is the Women’s Ministry Coordinator at Harvest USA and oversees the gospel-centered teaching and discipleship of women struggling with relational, sexual, and victimization issues. She is a graduate of Covenant Seminary and has a certificate in biblical counseling from CCEF. Ellen has over twenty years of experience in teaching and mentoring others through the Bible, and she is the author of Sexual Sanity for Women: Healing from Sexual and Relational BrokennessSexual Faithfulness: Gospel-Infused, Practical Discipleship for WomenToxic Relationships: Taking Refuge in Christ, and several minibooks including Sex and the Single Girl: Smart Ways to Care for Your Heart and Living Together: Why Marriage is the Best Choice.