How do I battle temptation during the Holidays? – Pt. 2

The holidays can be particularly challenging for people struggling with sexual sin. Christmas doesn’t look like a Norman Rockwell painting. Instead, the holidays are often marked by disappointment and painful reminders of life in this broken world. This means you need to be on guard during the holidays. Because sexual sin is often used for false comfort in the midst of stress, frustration, and anxiety, Christmas, ’tis the season for temptation. There are four key things to do to get you safely, and maybe even joyfully, through this time.

First, prayerfully consider how the holidays have been difficult historically. Journal about causes of sadness in the past. What ways do you wish your relationships were different? What seems lacking? What changed circumstance or relationship do you believe would transform your life? How do your answers to these questions impact your view of yourself, and more importantly, your understanding of God and his character? Typically we translate pain into evidence that God has abandoned us or is indifferent to our suffering. In what specific ways does your current situation cause you to doubt God’s goodness, love, or power?

Second, examine the lies you believe about God and yourself. Talk to him about them. Ask him to help you believe what is true. Record in your journal biblically accurate descriptions of God’s character to counter these lies. Ask believing friends to help you in this. He wants you to know the truth of Psalm 28:7: “In him my heart trusts, and I am helped.” Further, ask God for a glimpse of his purposes for you in not changing the things you wish he would. How does he want to make you more like Jesus? How might others be encouraged through your self-denial and obedience?

Third, because of the increased temptation, you need greater support from the body of Christ. What specific challenges will you face this holiday, and how can others come alongside you? Rather than a weekly update, consider reporting in daily while you’re away or when your family’s in town. Send a quick text or email to let others know what you’re experiencing, your level of temptation, the lies you’re fighting, and the truths you need to believe.

Being away from home can create the illusion of anonymity. Will you be staying somewhere with unprotected Wi-Fi? Commit to keeping your phone off the network, and make sure your laptop or tablet has accountability software. If you’re traveling, are there specific dangers to that location? Are there particular temptations either en route or once you arrive? If you’re returning to your hometown, are there dangerous past relationships? But this is crucial: acknowledge these things beforehand and invite your friends to ask intrusive questions. As with all of life, we shouldn’t face the temptations of Christmas alone.

Finally, be focused on him. Be intentional to draw near to him through Scripture and prayer. Meditate on the wonder of the Incarnation. By his Spirit, he is still God with us, and promises to meet you in these challenges to restore the joy of your salvation this holiday. Have a Merry Christmas.