Sexuality, relationships and emotional-connections…who owns them anyway?!

Sexuality, relationships and emotional-connections…who owns them anyway?!

Relationships? Emotional connections with others? Do we “make” all of these experiences for ourselves? Do WE set the agenda and do what we want? Many will shout out a loud and exuberant YES! But the God of the Bible says something else. Speaking of Jesus, Colossians 1:15-17 says radical things about all of the above: ALL things were created BY Him and FOR Him!  WOW!  By Jesus and for Jesus?! Jesus is God, and therefore Creator…and as Creator has designed relationships, sexuality (and therefore sexual expression) and our emotional lives to be experienced for Him and His purposes. These purposes are GOOD, beautiful, healing, restoring and amazing because Jesus is a good, beautiful, amazing Healer and Restorer.  In the postings to come, we’ll delve into and discuss these thoughts from a variety of angles. We eagerly invite your thoughts and questions, your agreements and disagreements! Let’s consider together how the Creator has created us to live as human beings who are relational and sexual beings made in His image.

Ellen Dykas
About The Author
Ellen oversees the Philadelphia office’s ministry to women. Her ministry is focused on discipleship with women who are struggling with sexual and relational sins in their own lives, as well as women who are impacted by the sexual sins of their spouses or others. Ellen is available to teach, equip and encourage others (churches, organizations) to become more effective in ministering the gospel of Christ into the midst of all aspects of sexual brokenness.


  • By ChaplainChas. 19 Nov 2008

    All things were created BY Him and FOR HIm.



  • By Patrick 04 Dec 2008

    First, I love the idea of a blog on the human condition (what we currently are) and how to move back to what God had always intended.
    The the fall of man (sin) changed everything. Suddenly Adam was alienated from God and hid in fear when God came for His walk in the garden. Adam and Eve became alienated from each other. Instead of being his closest friend he blamed her for all their troubles. Eve blamed the serpent. They are expelled from the garden. The ground now brings forth thorns and thistles. Adam has to work hard and sweat to bring forth food and Eve has to endure labor and pain in childbirth.

    Adam and Eve no longer know who they are. The devil had promised them they would be just like God, but nothing was further from the truth. The finite man was not designed or prepared to run the universe of an infinite God. Instead of being like God they sewed fig leaves together and hid behind them in an attempt to cover up their sin. Since that time man (that is, all of us) has suffered from an identity problem. We spend most of our time trying to hide our sin and problems behind any number of fig leaves, all in an attempt to persuade ourselves and others we don’t really have a problem. I love the song by Mark Schultz “Do you Even Know Me Anymore?” This verse sums it up well:

    I’ve watched my days,
    Turn into years,
    And now I’m wondering how I wound up here.
    I dreamed my dreams,
    I made my plans,
    But all I’ve built here is an empty man.

    Mankind was now alienated from God, from each other, from nature and from himself, so God rolled up his sleeves and began what is known as the Reconciliation Project (actually, I just coined that phrase). You can see this project beginning in Genesis Chapter 3, with a picture of reconciliation: the serpent bruises the heel of the redeemer while he in turn crushes the serpent’s head. Then in verse 21 we read: “The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them.” As a foreshadowing of things to come, God sacrifices an innocent animal to cover the sins of man. Only the Savior can cleanse men’s sins and again set him right with God, others, the world and himself. Only God’s grace is sufficient for us.

    In Luke 4:18 Jesus Christ summarizes the condition of all of mankind:

    The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised….

    Every man needs the good news of the gospel. Every man needs Christ. Why? Because this is the way back (reconciliation) to community and fellowship with God, others, the world and himself. Sin has made us all poor, all prisoners, all blind, all oppressed, and all brokenhearted.
    Some alienated and broken people live as if the key to their freedom is the unlocking of their past. Broken people remembering their broken pasts does not lead to wholeness. The truth is that Jesus Christ is the only way to freedom. Some live in the future, dreaming of the day when they can finally start living, free from the addictions and trials that bind them only to see their lives pass away before they can even begin. Jesus Christ is Lord of the present. Hebrews 12:2 clearly sums up the way back to God and how we should live.

    Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

    We should only glance at our trials and tribulation but we should gaze at Christ. The joy set before Christ was God. We focus on the Savior for he is the way back to God. He is the agent of the Reconciliation Project – God calling the world back to community and fellowship with Him.

    I llok forward to the conversations.


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