People Addiction and Food Addiction … SO Similar!

People Addiction and Food Addiction … SO Similar!

When someone asked a mentor of mine, “Do you think you can be addicted to a relationship?”, Beth responded immediately :


And it’s true…the dynamics that we experience in certain relationships can become habitually destructive when they become a perceived NEED to our lives. The feelings of comfort, security, value and acceptance are among the top nutrients that feed and nurture a co-idolatrous relationship. Not to say that those things are evil in and of themselves! But, when they become our driver, our aim, our goal of why we are relating to someone, it could be because a people-addiction is in the works.

And in my own journey of seeking to run to Jesus out of my people-idolatry, I’ve come to see how similar people addiction is to food addiction (another form of creation BTW, that I can lean towards, away from the Creator.) With this post, I just want to get some initial thoughts out there and then I’ll follow up with more ponderings on how cravings for food and the craving for people are more alike than different!

  • People/relationships and food are good gifts of God. James 1:17
  • We can’t just go “off” of people or food…we are called to live life in community and…well, we DO need food to survive! Romans 12:9-10 speaks to our call to be involved in relationships,  and any cooking magazine will confirm our need for food. 🙂
  • Both can become a ‘feel good’ subsitute for Jesus, a way to sooth heart pain.
  • By God’s grace and the power of the Holy Spirit, we must learn to live in holy moderation of these good gifts…not clinging to the created thing in a way that only the Creator is worthy of.

More to come….

Ellen Dykas
About The Author
Ellen oversees the Philadelphia office’s ministry to women. Her ministry is focused on discipleship with women who are struggling with sexual and relational sins in their own lives, as well as women who are impacted by the sexual sins of their spouses or others. Ellen is available to teach, equip and encourage others (churches, organizations) to become more effective in ministering the gospel of Christ into the midst of all aspects of sexual brokenness.

1 Comment:

  • By bekahmae 28 Oct 2009

    We just talked about this in my discipleship class at church tonight– Addiction is another word for idolatry, and we can take any good gift from God and twist it into an idol. Any time we find our identity in anything other than Christ, we have created an idol. This will be a good thought to follow!

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